Dating is hard. I could stop there, but that wouldn’t make for a good blog post would it? Let me go on. In this day and age, one doesn’t usually meet people through conventional methods any more; in the street, in a restaurant, via an acquaintance or maybe at the gym. It happens but it’s rare. Instead, it becomes a second job – finish grinding during the day and during your commute home, while glaring at your phone half awake, you’re welcomed by a dozen likes across three or four apps. This is great… I’m getting likes; you think to yourself.
The problem now is, you have to filter through said likes, spending time and doing justice to the person’s profile and forming a decision and opinion about them. You’re nervous, perhaps slightly intimidated; she does yoga? She cooks, volunteers and works for a well known company too? There may be interests that overlap and others that don’t. A genre of books you’ve never read and music you’ve never heard. Take it easy, my friend. *Breathe in through your nose… now out through your mouth*. Better? Good. Now muster up the courage and like back, or swipe, or whatever it is the cool kids are doing these days.
I used to worry at this moment of the dating game. We both like each other’s profiles but now what? What do I say? How do I start saying it and how do I stop myself from waffling? It’s easy. Say hey and move on to starting with a compliment about something that interested you while reading their profile. Keep it short and simple. Don’t be desperate or worry they haven’t replied after 2mins. You’ve done your bit – carry on about your day, mate.
When the reply does eventually make it’s way to your screen, rejoice. Now comes the fun part. They probably replied back about the particular point you mentioned. Show them your personality through engaging and well thought out sentences. Easier said than done, you say? Okay, let me show you how…
The initial conversations are usually centred around work, hobbies or maybe a pet, and can span the course of a couple of days. It’s after this point that I invite them to meet up for a coffee. The chances of getting a yes after this point is pretty high because you’ve spent a bit of time getting to know the person. Boom! There you go you Suave Fox – you’re one step closer to being with the person of your dreams.
When looking at somebody’s pictures, posts or biographies, it’s very easy to put them on a pedestal. Try to remember that the person on the other end of the app is a human being just like you. They too have goals, fears, desires and interests along with every other human emotion and need. Just be cool and treat this as a marathon not a race. When you do eventually meet them, you’ll be all the better for it.
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